At other times, particularly when it is someone who is clearly wrong but who is challenging me on a known fact, it really, really, really gets under my skin.
As an example, if someone were to contradict a point I made about Geronimo, it would really get under my skin. Most of his life is surprisingly well documented. I have researched it quite heavily and know what I am talking about when I discuss him. I have read his pseudo-autobiography many times, have read the dispatches of Jeffords, etc.
So if someone made a claim that was in direct opposition to the record it would get under my skin far beyond, say...a physical challenge...to see if I could run 15 miles or something stupid like that.
Mostly it would I suppose because I KNOW I am right. It is not even really debatable. I have, and usually have presented, the information. It is difficult if not impossible to refute unless you somehow, some way come up with even better, newer information.
Of course, when looking at material centuries old...it can be tough to come up with new information.
I am currently encountering such a situation where a falsehood is being pushed upon me even after I have quite clearly shown how and why it is false and how and why I will have no part of it.
As a result, I was thinking about it all day yesterday. And the thoughts were, quite honestly, very negative.
It threatens many things. It threatens a dream I have worked long and hard on for many years. It threatens my relationship with many people I care about.
The problem is, I ALREADY presented the best case I can. Like so many things, when I try something, I start by trying the best option. When that doesn't work, I never understand how a lesser option could work where the best one did.
This, as an aside, is one reason I seldom try new things anymore. If the first one doesn't work, I very seldom try a second way, largely because I already know the most logical, likely way did not work.
This, as an aside, is one reason I seldom try new things anymore. If the first one doesn't work, I very seldom try a second way, largely because I already know the most logical, likely way did not work.
Anyhow, I spent most if not all of yesterday trying to move my thoughts beyond this situation. I failed miserably. I will try again today, we will see what happens.
One thing I think all who know me know is that I won't be changing my mind. The reason I get my back up when I know I am right and know it is a matter of right and wrong is because I am right. Again, it is not debatable, it is not a thing where it might be different seen from a different angle. There is a right and a wrong here and I am right.
Now to make sure the way i deal with it is right.
And that is hard indeed.
4 comments:
What's going on? Inquiring minds want to know!
I can't blame you for your strong stand. Or for your frustration with the outcome. I hope things work out to your satisfaction.
Don't worry, man. One day they will accept the fact that country twang is evil.
This wouldn't have anything to do with a certain discussion on facebook would it? :P
I generally respond well to challenges, not so much to arguments. I have been in a lot of arguments in my short life. Only a handful of them had even an iota of a chance of changing the minds of people on either side. I am not a man who likes beating my head against a wall (makes my career choice seem kind of strange :P ) so arguments tend to get under my skin as well.
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